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Ipsy Subscription Box: January 2018 Unboxing

Ipsy Subscription Box: January 2018 Unboxing

Ipsy is a fantastic monthly subscription box, created by beauty influencer Michelle Phan, as well as Marcelo Camberos and Jennifer Goldfarb. It’s been around since 2011, and is the very first subscription box I ever tried back in 2015.

When you sign up, you complete a beauty profile quiz, which determines the products you receive in your bag. Some subscribers don’t think the quiz makes much of a difference, but I have noticed I almost never get hair products, which was what I specifically stated in my beauty quiz that I didn’t want. It seems like they’re listening.

 

Elaine Turner

 

I stick with Ipsy because it’s only $10 a month, you get 4 or 5 deluxe-sized or full-sized products that always come in a cute little makeup bag, and the company’s website says the value of each bag is around $50.

Another thing I LOVE about Ipsy is that you get points for reviewing the products in the bag, and you get to trade in your points for extra items. I’ve gotten several awesome items from my points, like a full-sized concealer, an eye shadow palette, and a crystal nail file.

It’s also exciting because your bag comes in a bright pink shiny bubble mailer. Every time I see that super shiny pink in my mailbox my heart flutters with happiness!

Let’s check out January’s box!

 

The Box

I guess it’s more of a bag than a box. Here it is:

 

 

Isn’t this month’s bag CUTE?

Here’s a better look at it:

 

 

I love the sporty look, which goes along with this month’s theme, “Game Face.” Every month there is a card included explaining the month’s chosen theme, like so:

 

 

This is the perfect theme for January! It’s a fresh year, and we all have goals. So Ipsy is encouraging us to put on our game face and conquer our goals.

I especially like that this month’s card serves more than just the purpose of giving information. The back side has a spot where you can write down your goal, and put it somewhere you can see it and be motivated. Great idea, Ipsy!

 

Okay, so let’s see these products!

First off, we have Dermelect Cosmeceuticals Microfacial Exfoliating Mask.

 

 

I’ve never tried this or any other products from Dermelect. However, since moving to Flagstaff, the dry air has really been taking a toll on my skin. So I welcome any sort of skin products in my sub boxes right now. I will definitely try this.

This sample says it’s 15 ml or 1/2 ounce. You can get the full-sized bottle, 2.7 ounces, on Dermelect’s website for $38. That means our sample-sized bottle’s value is about $7.

 

Next up is this cute little bottle of Oribe Gold Lust Dry Shampoo:

 

 

I’m a daily user of dry shampoo, as much for the volumizing effects as for the oil-sapping benefits. I haven’t tried this kind. According to Oribe’s website, this product is supposed to give your hair UV protection, and it’s also vegan, cruelty-free and gluten-free. Pretty cool.

As far as value, the full-sized (286 ml) bottle is priced at $44. Get it here. Our sample size is 43 ml, making it’s approximate value $6.62.

 

For our next item, we have the City Color Contour Palette:

 

 

City Color always strikes me as a pretty low-end brand. I’ve never really sought out their products, because they usually look so cheap. I’m not against inexpensive or drugstore brands by any means. But I mean, just LOOK at it. This is a brand new palette and it looks all banged up.

The value is not very high. Their full-sized version sells for $6.99 here, and this palette is a little over half the size of the full-sized version. So the approximate value is about $3.90.

See it swatched below.

 

Moving on, here is our next item, a Dirty Little Secret eyeshadow pot:

 

 

Dirty Little Secret is a brand I really like. I have never found a product of theirs that I didn’t like. This eyeshadow is pretty unique, not a color I see a lot. It’s called Sangria. You can see it swatched below.

This is a full-sized product! Woohoo! It retails for $12 on the DLS website, although it’s not currently in stock. You can get it on pre-order though.

 

Our last item is another full-sized product, the NYX Lingerie Lip:

 

 

The shade is #07, which is Satin Ribbon, a nice nude beige. I’m a big fan of NYX. It’s one of those brands that’s affordable, but compares in quality and value to higher end makeup companies. This lip lingerie dries very matte, and stays put for a LONG time. See it swatched below.

Like I said, this is a full-sized product, so the retail price is $7 on the NYX website.

Here are the products swatched:

 

 

The top left three are the City Color Contour Pallette, to the right of them is the DLS Eyeshadow Pot, and underneath is the NYX Lip Lingerie.

 

 

La Roche-Posay- ACD

 

The Verdict

So this month’s bag wasn’t my favorite. The City Color Contour Palette was a miss for me. But I was happy with the DLS eyeshadow and the NYX Lingerie Lip color, the only two full-sized products in the bag.

As far as value, I paid $10, and the approximate value of all the products in the bag is $36.52. That’s a little disappointing, because the bags are usually around $50 in value.

I am not paid or affiliated with Ipsy in any way. I buy a monthly subscription like everyone else.

Although January’s bag was a disappointment, I still highly recommend signing up, because most of the time Ipsy gets it right. If you sign up using my referral link, we BOTH get extra points, which can go toward free products!

 

Do you subscribe to Ipsy? If so, what’d you think of your January bag? Let me know in the comments!

 

XO Broads!

 

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Is Sharing Your Relationship On Social Media Destroying It?

Is Sharing Your Relationship On Social Media Destroying It?

We see it all the time: relationship oversharing on social media. Those perfect couples who constantly post mushy gushy love notes to one another, brag about how awesome they are, and leave the rest of us wondering what in the world is wrong with our own mediocre relationships.

Some days I sit there looking at these posts and just shaking my head. Hells yes I’m jealous! Who doesn’t want gorgeous selfies with their guy, and he actually looks HAPPY to be in the picture?

I have to beg Mr. OG to be in a selfie. Then if I don’t push that shutter button quick enough, I end up with a photo of me looking deliriously happy, next to a blur of the side of Mr. OG’s face, because he’s already bailed. Or I end up looking annoyingly perky next to him looking pissed at the world. Like so:

 

 

The point is, these kinds of overly-exuberant relationship posts can leave some of us feeling inadequate and dejected, because our regular old relationships don’t seem to hold a candle to the perfection we see everyday on our Facebook or Instagram timelines. Are those couples really that much more in-tune than the rest of us? Let’s find out.

 

 

What Oversharing Can Mean for Your Relationship

 

Guess what? Those indefectible couples probably aren’t as blissfully in love as they appear. Research says relationship oversharing on social media may not be the best thing for your partnership. There are many concerns that this type of behavior could be pointing to, and I am going to briefly discuss three of them.

 

Validation:

In an interview with Daily Mail, sexologist Nikki Goldstein points out, “Often it’s the people who post the most who are seeking validation for their relationship from other people on social media.” She goes on to mention that by seeking validation outside of the relationship, you are taking away from the quality of the moments you spend with your partner.

“The likes and comments can be so validating that when someone is really struggling, that’s where they get their up from – not the person making the gesture, but what other people will say about it,” she states. “You see people who will focus so much on taking a ‘relfie’ – a relationship selfie – and getting the right filter and hashtags that they’re missing the moment. Couples are taking these photos, straight away putting them online and then watching the likes and comments instead of being with their partners.”

 

Insecurity:

It isn’t necessarily posting pictures of you and your partner that’s the problem. It’s what you are masking that becomes the issue.

Northwestern University researchers surveyed over 100 couples, and afterward, released a report on the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. They found this: “On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships more visible.”

 

Possessiveness:

Goldstein goes on to mention that how a couple poses in photos, or how they label those photos can bring in an element of ownership. She uses the example of The Bachelorette’s Sam Frost and Sasha Mielczarek, who were constantly posting photos on Instagram of their “perfect” relationship. Sadly, they only lasted 18 months before they split for good.

 

 Source: Sasha Mielczarek’s Facebook.

 

Many of their Instagram photos were labeled “My man,” or “My bae.” Notice also that in the above photos they are displaying quite a lot of forced affection, and you can see that Sasha is almost always holding onto Sam in some way.  These all can be signs of possessiveness, which is never healthy in a relationship.

Goldstein says, “There are a lot of people out there who want to flaunt to their friends and the world that this person is mine.” Do you feel the need to show people that your partner “belongs” to you? That could be a problem.

 

What’s the Meaning?

So, according to the above information, if a couple feels the need to document every moment they spend together on social media, it might not be a good thing. Or if a couple has to make themselves look way happier on the internet than they are in real life, it might not be a good thing. Or if a couple needs constant reaffirmation from outside sources that their relationship is going well, it might not be a good thing.

Of course, this made me think about celebrities, those people we all follow on social media that look so fulfilled. How about we conduct our own little experiment here? Let’s look at a few examples of celebrities who stay private verses those who overshare  (because I don’t think my friends would like if I started comparing them on this blog).

I warn you, this experiment is EXTREMELY scientific.

 

 

Staying Private

Here is a short list of celebrity couples who have been together for 10 years or more, and who try to keep the nuances of their relationships private, especially on social media:

 

Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson, together since 1988

 

Source: Rita Wilson’s Instagram

 

These two are known for being very private, yet they aren’t afraid to address their bond occasionally. They’ve been through a lot together: she is his second wife, he helped her through a breast cancer diagnosis. They credit honesty and humor as two of the reasons they are still together. They don’t hide their relationship from their social media accounts, but they do post sparingly, and generally the posts are not possessive or showy.

 

Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi, together since 2004

 

Source: Portia de Rossi’s Instagram

 

One of my favorite things about this couple is how supportive they are of one another. If you check out their social media accounts, you won’t see a lot of mushy posts about their undying love. Instead, you see a few pictures of them on vacation together, or supporting one another’s achievements. They definitely respect each other. You also don’t see them looking possessive or having to declare their undying love constantly for the world to see.

 

Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith, together since 1994

 

Source: Will Smith’s Instagram

 

It’s known the the Smiths have had their ups and downs, but one thing that they have always valued is privacy. While they are willing to answer surface questions about their relationship, they don’t talk about the ins and outs very often. Instead, they opt  to keep that between the two of them. Search through their social media accounts and you aren’t going to see a ton of pictures of them together. That’s not to say they don’t exist, but usually it’s pictures of them with their kids, or small discreet tributes on special days (like their 20 year anniversary).

 

Kurt Russel and Goldie Hawn, together since 1983

 

Source: Goldie Hawn’s Instagram

 

I have always loved this couple! For one, like Mr. OG and I, they have never felt the need for a wedding (Goldie was married twice before they got together, and Kurt once). But that doesn’t mean they are any less in love and committed to one another. Their social media accounts are full of fun pictures of them enjoying life, together and apart (I want to be best friends with them, btw). What has been the key to their successful relationship? “Love, gratitude, compassion, because sometimes every man or every woman will drive their partner crazy. Family. Fun. Laughs. Sex,” Hawn says. “If you don’t nurture that, and remember, you’re done.” These two try to keep their relationship out of the spotlight, and instead focus on nurturing their beautiful blended family.

 

Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel, together since 2007

 

Source: Justin Timberlake’s Instagram

 

These two have been extremely private since their relationship began. They rarely post photos together on their social media accounts. In fact, it’s almost always on a special occasion if they do. When it was leaked that Biel was pregnant in 2014, the two wouldn’t confirm or deny the rumors for some time. Timberlake is known for being very protective of his family. When they do mention one another, it seems to be with great respect and support, something we can all learn from.

 

 

Oversharing

I thought about making a list of couples who overshared on social media and ended up breaking up, but that’s not really fair. We never really know the all of the reasons for a breakup. The point of this article is not to shun posting your relationship on social media. Rather, it’s to caution that too much sharing can be a symptom of problems. So instead, I will mention a few celebrities who are known for oversharing. These celebrities also either can’t seem to make their relationships last, or are often in partnerships that are extremely volatile:

 

Taylor Swift:

 

Source: Taylor Swift’s Instagram

 

Taylor Swift is notoriously guilty of relationship oversharing on social media. Now, that may not have anything to do with her lack of success in long-term relationships, but it certainly doesn’t help. When she dated Calvin Harris, she constantly posted photos of them doing amazing things like vacationing in tropical locations, barbecuing, and riding inflated swans together. It seemed like it was meant to be. Sadly, it wasn’t.

This isn’t the first time Taylor can be accused of oversharing. She seems to be guilty of relationship oversharing with almost every partner she’s been with, including Joe Jonas, Taylor Lautner, John Mayer, and Jake Gyllenhaal. Even more, Taylor has a habit of writing songs about her ex boyfriends. Also, she is constantly in disputes with other celebrities (Katy Perry, Kanye West). She has no problem airing her thoughts about said “beefs” on her social media accounts. You’d think she’d learn.

 

Lindsey Lohan:

 

Source: Lindsey Lohan’s Instagram

 

Lindsey Lohan has long been known for her bizarre antics and strange relationships. She has had many a breakup unfold via social media, including recently with Egor Tarabasov. She posted quite a bit of personal information on Instagram. Basically the world was given a play by play of their entire relationship, including alleged physical abuse and infidelity. If that isn’t relationship oversharing, I don’t know what is. Then, to top it off, she got angry at people for commenting negatively about and “butting in” to her relationship. She went out of her way to make a statement (on social media, of course) to ask that people give her privacy. Go figure.

Of course, she has done all the same things in her other past relationships, with Samantha Ronson and Aaron Carter.

 

Kylie Jenner:

 

Source: Kylie Jenner’s Instagram

 

Again, we have a celebrity that can’t stop oversharing! This example is a little different than the previous two, because Kylie doesn’t necessary overshare when it comes to her relationships. She just overshares. This can still put a lot of unnecessary stress on a relationship, though. Of course, it’s to be expected, as she comes from a family that lives constantly in the spotlight. I’m going to inject my personal opinion here (shocker!) and say, Kylie drives me nuts! Almost every single picture she posts is so incredibly posed, it makes me want to puke. She is just trying way too hard to follow in her older sister Kim’s footsteps…..and Khloe’s…..and Kourtney’s…..

Maybe it’s just me, but doesn’t she look unhappy? That might be because she doesn’t believe in smiling, taking a note from Kim, who says it causes wrinkles. Hmmm….would I rather look like a zombie with no emotions, or have some small wrinkles around my lips and eyes because of happiness? That’s a tough one, and by tough I mean not tough at all. I’ll take happiness with a side of wrinkles please!

The main point is, Kylie seems to struggle in her relationships as well. In fact, don’t all of the Kardashian ladies? If they’d put their phones down for a moment and participate in the reality around them, they might be more successful in their love lives. Of course, they are laughing all the way to the bank, aren’t they?

 

 

The Bottom Line:

This theory behind relationship oversharing on social media clearly isn’t completely scientific. But any person with common sense can see there is a definite correlation between maintaining privacy and having success in your relationship. Of course, there is always the other side of the argument. Some researchers say that posting frequently on social media about your relationship makes you stronger. I personally haven’t seen this in action much, but it’s a valid argument that should be considered. The bottom line is, while oversharing doesn’t necessarily spell doom for a relationship, at times it can mean there is trouble brewing behind the scenes.

“But Amber,” you may be thinking, “I like posting about my partner for my family and friends to see!” Hey, there’s nothing wrong with that. The key here is to avoid oversharing, maintain privacy, and stop trying to mask problems.

Many of those couples I mentioned earlier that value privacy still post about their partner on social media. There are a couple of key things to remember about the way  they post. For one, they usually save mushy posts for special occasions. Also, instead of needing to show possession, with a lot of PDA and labeling, healthy couples generally post photos of them and their partner having fun and enjoying life together. Nikki Goldstein (mentioned earlier) gives an example of a couple who posts about their relationship in the right way: social media star Pia Muehlenbeck and her boyfriend Kane Vato.

 

Source: Kane Vato’s Facebook

 

Notice they always seem to be having fun and laughing together. Their photos give us a peek into their relationship, and it doesn’t seem like they are trying reaffirm to everyone that they are SO into each other.

The takeaway here is this: Instead of trying to document every moment of your relationship for your Insta-feed, put that phone down and make some memories. When you do post pictures of you and your partner, stop trying to make all of us believe you are so excessively happy that blue birds follow you around singing all the time. Be honest. Be respectful and supportive. Have fun together, and while doing so,  if you happen to capture a moment of that on camera authentically, by all means, I’d love to see it on my wall.

Just don’t share too much, mmmkay?

 

Talk at ya later!

 

 

 

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Research for this article:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4115946/Sexologist-Nikki-Goldstein-says-loved-social-media-sign-relationship-failing.html

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/couples-social-media-oversharing-facebook-instagram-twitter-relationship-insecurities-experts-nikki-a7530911.html

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/posting-relationship-means-failing/1752552

http://www.esquire.com/uk/culture/news/a7116/over-sharing-social-media-couple-insecure-study/

https://www.inc.com/john-rampton/8-reasons-why-happy-couples-rarely-share-their-relationship-statuses-on-social-m.html

 

I’m the founder of The Bonafide Broad, and a thirty-something broad originally from the Pacific Northwest. I now live in Flagstaff, Arizona, with my guy, Mr. OG. When I’m not busy rescuing kittens from tall trees, carrying babies from burning buildings, and trying to establish world peace, I work for the school district in Flagstaff, and I run this blog.

How to KEEP Your New Year’s Resolutions

How to KEEP Your New Year’s Resolutions

Holy macaroni, it’s time to set our New Year’s resolutions again. What. The. Hell. Every year time seems to flow a little faster. It’s craziness!

 



Alas, it is what it is, and here we are. We have physically transitioned to a new year. The mental transition, of course, is a little slower (I promise you I’ll be writing the wrong year on everything until at LEAST June!).

Many of us have set ourselves some New Year’s resolutions. I know I have! I’m very excited about these changes! But I’m also a bit nervous. Let’s be real here (isn’t that what we do on this blog?). Less than 10% of the people who set New Year’s resolutions actually keep them.

 

 

What can we do to increase our chances of ACCOMPLISHING our resolutions? Here are some simple ideas you can incorporate pretty easily into your daily life. These will help you to keep your resolutions important and up front in your mind throughout the whole year, and not just on day one. These suggestions are great for any kind of goal you set, not just your New Year’s Resolution!

 

Make a resolution/goal in the first place:

 

 

This may seem like a “duh!” suggestion, but there’s a reason I not only included it, but made it number one.

Less than half of people even set resolutions. You know what you can’t accomplish if you don’t set them? Goals. Yep, the first step to accomplishing something is actually deciding you want to accomplish something. It’s SO simple…

 

 

Write it down and put it somewhere you will see it often:

 

 

The value of writing goals down has long been known by researchers. Here is a great article on The Huffington Post that discusses the benefits of putting your goals in writing.

Basically, if you write your goals down, you are almost 50% more likely to accomplish them. This has to do with you introducing these goals to your brain through thought AND vision. If your brain SEES the goal you’ve been thinking about, it gets the message that you are more serious about what you want.

The more your brain sees this goal, the more the importance of the goal is reaffirmed. So write it down often, and keep visuals in high traffic places in your home, such as by your front door, on your refrigerator, or on your bathroom mirror.

 

 

Set several small goals:

 

 

Remember when Bill Murray taught us about taking baby steps in What About Bob? While Bob took this a little more literally than his psychiatrist intended, there is value in the analogy.

It is much easier to accomplish several smaller, more defined goals than a single big one. So once you decide on your resolution, try to break it down into two or three micro goals that all work toward the bigger purpose. Make sure these are S.M.A.R.T. goals: specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound (Learn more about S.M.A.R.T. goals here).

For example, if your resolution for 2018 is to be healthier, try a couple of small goals, like drinking more water, only eating sweets on the weekend, or taking a 20 minute walk every day. Those are much more defined and actionable than a general goal of being more healthy. This also makes it possible for you to measure your success.

Let me give you another example. Here is my resolution for this year:

 

 

I’ve broken my resolution down into three S.M.A.R.T. goals. I’m going to go a step further and break each goal down into a couple of smaller steps to make them even more achievable. Notice I also posted them right there on my refrigerator so I see them several times a day.

 

 

Establish a reward for accomplishing your goals:

 

 

Set up a reward for when you accomplish each of your small goals. Let’s go back to our example earlier of being healthier.

Say you set a sub-goal of drinking more water. How about if you drink 8 glasses of water a day, every day for a month, you buy yourself a new water bottle (Enter our January giveaway to win an Infusion Pro water bottle here)? Or if your sub-goal is to walk more, after a month of walking 20 minutes a day, get yourself a nice pedometer.

Reinforcing your goals with a reward system significantly increases your chances of success. One big reason for this is that when you are rewarded, you release more dopamine, a neurotransmitter in the reward and pleasure centers of your brain. Dopamine helps you to see rewards and work toward them.

Interestingly, anticipating a reward can be just as effective in releasing dopamine as actually getting the reward. This is significant because studies have shown that go-getters release much more dopamine than slackers do.

So reward your accomplishments, because science and shit!

 

 

Don’t go telling everyone:

 

 

Sounds weird, right? I mean, doesn’t telling other people about your goals create accountability? Not so much, according to research.

When we tell a person our goal, they often commend and encourage us for setting the goal. This stimulates something called Social Reality, according to Derek Sivers (Ted X speaker).

Sivers says: “When you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it’s called a “social reality.” The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it’s already done. And then because you’ve felt that satisfaction, you’re less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.” Learn more about this here.

This doesn’t mean you can’t share your goals with anyone. Just make sure if you do, that it’s a person who you have established mutual respect with, and who will help keep you in check.

 

 

The Takeaway

 

As you can see, setting and KEEPING your New Year’s resolution isn’t as easy as just saying you want to improve. If it were that easy, none of us would struggle with keeping our resolutions! No, this is something that will take time and effort. But it will be worth it!

Don’t let yourself feel intimidated! Remember, you wouldn’t be setting the goal in the first place if it wasn’t important. Aren’t all important things in life worth working for? Follow the tips above, and I guarantee you will increase your chances of your New Year’s resolution becoming a box on your life checklist you can finally check off.

 

Now go get ’em guys and gals!

 

 

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Gift Guide for Men: 30 Super Unique Men’s Gifts

Gift Guide for Men: 30 Super Unique Men’s Gifts

Why are men’s gifts so hard to find? Without a doubt, the most difficult person in my life to get gifts for is Mr. Og. Whether it’s Christmas, Valentine’s Day (which is almost upon us!), or our anniversary, it never gets easier.

Part of the reason is because he never wants anything specific, and he always says, “I just don’t NEED anything.” Or he suggests things like socks, boxer briefs, and of course, a pair of Jordan’s.

 



It takes a lot to think of great gifts that will blow his mind. Sometimes I succeed, and other times I fail miserably.

I imagine many of you Broads feel the same way when it comes to men’s gifts. So I’m gonna help you out, and suggest some amazing and unique gifts for him. These range in price from just a few dollars to a significant investment. You are sure to find something that fits your budget and, MOST IMPORTANTLY, that will absolutely knock the socks off your mister!

 

Without further adieu, let’s dive in right in!

 

1. Viking Drinking Horn

 

 

 

This is an amazing gift for a manly man. I mean, does it get more manly than Vikings???

What’s great is that this is made from 100% natural buffalo horn, and it’s been polished and sealed to keep it gorgeous and to prevent leaks. It can hold a pint of beer, and it also comes with a lovely stand for displaying.

It’s $49.99. Get it here.

 

 

2. Stuff Every Man Should Know by Brett Cohen

 

 

 

I got this little book for Mr. Og a couple of years ago. It’s great! It’s a perfect bathroom reader, and it’s not just a joke, either.

The information contained in this tiny book is actually valuable. For example, it’ll tell your guy how to cast a fishing rod, get a raise, make a perfect martini, give a great massage and more!

It’s also only $8.45! Whoop whoop! Get it here.

 

 

3. A wallet with RFID blocking for extra security

 

 

Every guy needs a wallet. It’s just one of those things that wears out and needs to be replaced every year or two.

Nowadays, you can get men’s wallets with RFID blocking so assholes can’t steal your credit or debit card information. This wallet is great because it not only has the extra security, but it also has a fantastic minimalist design. I love this striking blue finish, but there are a ton of colors to choose from. It includes a money clip too!

Extra props for being under $20, at only $16.99!! Get it here.

 

 

4. Fossil Q Marshal Gen 2 Smoke Stainless Steel Touchscreen Smartwatch

 

These next three suggestions are all types of watches, but each is unique for certain types of guys.

For the tech lover who also likes classy looking accessories, this first one is perfect! We’ve seen Apple watches. They are wicked convenient and all, but hella ugly!

This Fossil Q Marshal Gen 2 Smoke Stainless Steel Touchscreen Smartwatch has amazing features!  It has a touch screen, full fitness integration, music control, and more.

Plus, you can get it for under $300! Buy it here.

 

If you want a classy and trendy watch, but don’t want to spend a few hundred dollars, check this out….

 

 

5. Wood Watch

 

 

 

These wood watches are a new trend, and Mr. Og is totally digging them. I have to say, they are just gorgeous!

Bewell makes a great quality wood watch, from natural material. It is non-toxic and hypo-allergenic. The hands are luminized as well, so you can still see the time in the dark. It also has a 36 month battery life, and is water resistant to 30 meters.

You seriously can’t beat the funky retro style either! He’ll love it! This is much less expensive than most nice looking watches.

It’s a great price at only $27.99. Get it here.

 

If your guy wants to have a time piece, but doesn’t want to wear it on his wrist, enter my next suggestion…

 

 

6. Zeiger Classic Mechanical Steampunk Pocket Watch

 

 

Who doesn’t like pocket watches? They are super classy and fun statement pieces!

This one is exquisite, with a gorgeous steampunk design and a black tone. To top it off, the surface is scratch resistant, and it features classic roman numerals. It’s also super affordable. He will feel classy and modern all at once!

Only $14.19! Find it here.

 

 

 7. Bear Paws Shredder Claws

 

 

 

 

Pretty much every manly man loves to BBQ meat. But who ends up shredding that beautiful brisket or pork roast for yummy sliders? Yea, in my house, it’s me.

With these super studly bear claws, you’ll never be given the meat shredding responsibility again. What guy doesn’t want to use these babies to shred up their perfectly cooked meat? I mean, it’s just another excuse for him to play with his food.

A steal at only $12.95! Get them here.

 

 

8. Beard Care Kit

 

 

For men with beards, a beard kit is the perfect gift. This one by QQ Wow is fabulous because it’s affordable, it includes beard oil, balm, and a quality wooden comb, and it all comes packed in a nice little reusable tin. So easy for traveling!

Only $19.99 to boot! Find it here.

 

If you don’t want to get him a beard care kit, at least grab him a quality bottle of beard oil. My very favorite is:

 

 

9. Topher’s Beard Oil

 

 

 

 

This beard oil is the shit! It smells absolutely incredible and instantly makes me want to jump Mr. Og’s bones! It also helps your guy’s beard to grow in thicker and healthier. Mr. Og’s beard is SO soft when he puts his Topher’s on! I’m in love with this stuff!

You only need a couple of drops–it goes a LONG way. Mr. Og can make this bottle last for almost 6 months.

Oh the smell! There are a ton of scents you can choose from. I’ve smelled four of them: Drunken Pirate, Whiskey & Woodsmoke, Sandalwood & Cedar, and Spiced Tobacco. I gotta say, my favorite is Spiced tobacco, but really, you can’t go wrong with any of them. They are all amazing!

It’s only $20.00!  Find it here.

 

 

10. Liquor Decanter Set

 

 

Most guys have a liquor of choice that they love to enjoy when their buddies come over, or by themselves in the evening after a hard day at work. Why not make the experience even finer for him with this stunning decanter set? It’s not only the coolest decanter ever, a 28 ounce globe with etched glass, but it’s also a work of art.

Each decanter is hand blown, with a custom designed ship on the inside. This kit also includes a wood base, two etched drinking glasses, eight stainless steel whiskey stones, a pair of tongs, a metal pour funnel, and a glass stopper! It’s a fantastic conversation piece, and I’m willing to bet it will even make his scotch taste smoother!

This is surprisingly affordable for only $39.99! Buy it here.

 

 

 

11. Xbox One X

 

 

 

Mr. OG likes to have the newest gaming console he can get. This year it’s the XBOX One X.

This puppy is loaded. You get a fully immersive 4K gaming experience with premium Dolby Atmos and DTS:X Audio, so he’ll feel like he’s ACTUALLY in the game. Plus it’s compatible with all things XBox One, so his old accessories and games will still work! You will love it too, because you can stream Netflix, Hulu, HBO Go and so much more in that quality 4K!

It’s the most expensive item on our list at $498.51, but totally worth it! Buy it here.

 

 

12. Call of Duty World War 2

 

 

 

 

If you get him the Xbox One X, you definitely need to get him the coolest new game for it, which is Call of Duty WWII! It just came out this month and it’s amazing. I’ve seen it played and the graphics are stunning! It still holds true to the COD we all love, too!

If you can’t afford to get the new gaming console, just pick him up this game, and he will love you forever!

Typical game price is $59.99. Get it here.

 

 

13.  Cologne Sampler

 

 

 

I’ve gifted this to many people over the years because it’s just so great! You know when you can’t decide what cologne or perfume you want? Don’t you wish you could try each kind for a day or two to see how you REALLY like it?

Enter Sephora’s solution: the cologne sampler (they also have a perfume sampler for women). The samples come in a nice classic travel bag, and you get 12 of the most popular men’s fragrances. The best part is that it comes with a certificate for a FULL-SIZED BOTTLE of the fragrance he likes best! This can be redeemed at any Sephora store in the U.S.

It’s only $65, and you can be sure it’s a scent he will love, because he will pick it out himself! Get it here.

 

 

14. Jerky of the Month Club

 

 

 

Every guy loves meat, and jerky counts! There are quite few monthly jerky clubs out there, but not all are created equal.

My favorite is Jerky Snob. There is no MSG, no nitrates, and no high fructose corn syrup, so you’re guy will still be healthy! Plus, they have a variety of different flavors that he’s sure to love!

Starting at only $15 a month (that doesn’t include S & H), it’s a steal! Join here.

 

 

15. Anti-Aging Kit

 

 

This may sound like a weird one, but check this: I’m 33 now, and therefore have been changing up my skincare routine A LOT. Mr. OG has gotten to hear about it many times.

One day he said he wanted to get himself a lotion for his face. It was the first time he’d ever expressed interest in skin care. But with us getting older, it’s something that has been on his mind.

Your guy will likely never go get himself anti-aging products, which is why this is such a great gift. It’ll get him on a great skincare routine without him feeling goofy about it.

This kit by Brickell is very well-reviewed, and it’s simple, just two products. First is the Revitalizing Anti Aging Cream, that firms and smooths his skin, and second is the Restoring Eye Cream that reduces puffiness & dark circles. Both work to smooth fine lines and wrinkles as well. Because it’s so simple, it shouldn’t be too hard for him to implement these into his morning or evening routine.

You can get it for $80, right here.

 

 

 

16. Make Your Own Hot Sauce Kit

 

 

At this point you may be starting to realize that I LOVE kits. This one is especially great because it involves your guy creating something of his own, which is half the fun! Almost every man loves a good hot sauce. This kit has excellent reviews on Amazon. It includes your ingredients for the sauce, as wells as  three bottles with lids and dashers, three fully customizable labels, a funnel, a pair of gloves, sanitizer, and a booklet with recipes and instructions. The whole shebang!

It’s also only $29.95. Get it here.

 

Is your guy not into spicy? Try this instead:

 

 

17. Make Your Own BBQ Sauce Kit

 

 

This is a great option for those gents who just don’t enjoy spiciness in their food. BBQ sauce is great as a marinade, or a dipping sauce. It’s Mr. Og’s very favorite.

With this kit you can make three different types of BBQ sauce. He will also still get that nice feeling of being able to enjoy something he made himself. All of the ingredients and supplies are included, so you don’t need to worry about anything missing, or having to gather extra ingredients. He’ll love it!

It’s also only $39.95! You can find it here.

 

 

18. Lifestraw Personal Water Filter

 

 

 

This thing is rad! There are so many situations where it can be useful.

You can take it camping, hiking, anywhere you travel, or you can put it into an emergency kit. It’s fantastic because it can really suck (oh the puns!) to have to carry around water. Water is heavy! So on that hiking trip, ditch the jugs and bring along your Lifestraw.

This baby can filter up to 1,000 liters of water. It doesn’t take batteries, and it surpasses EPA filter standards. It’s also only 9 inches long, so you can easily fit it pretty much anywhere. Your guy will love this tool!

It’s only $19.45! Buy it here.

 

 

19. Cyber Cleaning Putty

 

 

Cyber Cleaning Putting rocks! It’s a perfect little gift for a guy who loves his tech gadgets, and also is a bit of a clean freak (not mentioning any names, Mr. Og).  It works on almost any electronic gadget to get all that dust and gunk that even those aerosol cleaning duster cans leave behind.

You can use it on keyboards, phones, cameras, calculators, portable speakers, the back of your computer, the mouse, and any other electronic equipment you can think of. Even better, it can be used on kitchen appliances, remote controls, window sills, fans, brief cases, watches, jewelry, and so much more. It also has a nice fresh lemony clean smell to it.  It may not be the most exciting gift, but I guarantee it will be one he uses all the time!

It doesn’t break the bank either at only $10.99. Get it here.

 

 

20. Personalized White Oak Aging Barrel

 

 

What guy isn’t going to love his own personalized whiskey (or whatever spirit he likes) barrel? It looks wicked cool and will be one of his favorite pieces to expand his bar collection.

This barrel is two liters, and you can use it to age whiskey, beer, wine, tequila, rum, and even things like vinegar or honey. You can also have it engraved with your man’s name or nickname as well, making it completely his own–one of a kind.

It’s not only useful, but it’s a great conversation starter and a true work of art.

It’s also only $59.95! Buy it here.

 

 

21. BROUK & CO Leather Golf Flask

 

 

 

For your guy who loves to golf, this is one of the most unique and super cool gifts I’ve found.

Mr. Og loves to golf, but after a couple of years of Christmases, birthdays, and anniversaries, he pretty much has everything under the sun he could possibly need for the sport. Enter this little guy. It’s not only extremely well-made, but it also looks super sleek!

It hold 8 ounces of his favorite liquor, and some golf tools: 2 removable markers, 4 wooden tees, and a divot tool. As if that weren’t awesome enough, it also conveniently clips right to his golf bag!

Totally worth it for $43.27! Get it here.

 

 

22. Stadium Art Print

 

 

For your sport lover, why not get him a killer piece of art for his man cave (or man corner)?

This is an awesome print of Mr. Og’s favorite team stadium, the Century Link field where the Seattle Seahawks play. You can find just about any stadium your guy will like, whether it’s football, baseball, college, or the big leagues. Check Amazon. They have aerial photos, blueprint styles, drawings, paintings and more!

This print is only $29.95, so you can afford a nice frame for it, too! Get it here.

 

 

23. Bottle Loft

 

 

I love this gift so much because it’s a space saver! It comes with two VERY strong magnetic strips that you can hang a six pack of beer bottles from.

It’s super easy to install, and you will love the extra space it frees up for you in the fridge. Plus, it’s just cool looking, am I right? He will appreciate the simplicity but total coolness of this little gem of a gift!

It’s only $29.99. Find it here.

 

 

24. Magnetic Wristband

 

 

This wristband is super awesome for your mister! There’s always something to hammer, nail, hang, straighten, or whatever in your house. Out comes Mr. Handyman with thirteen nails stuck in his mouth. Inevitably, he swallows one and drops the other twelve.

Not anymore! The Magnetic Wristband by Magnogrip is great for those projects. Your guy can stick the nails right onto the wristband, and they aren’t going anywhere! No choking hazard, and no stepping on a nail three months later. Everybody wins!

You can get it for only $10.45. Buy here.

 

 

25. Folding Compact Workbench

 

 

Portable gifts are just great! Your guy can easily unfold this workbench anywhere he needs to do some real work. By the kitchen sink, or the washer, in the back yard, or in the garage.

He can also take it with him if he has a project that needs to be done away from home. He will love how easy it is to fold and carry.

It holds up to 1000 pounds, and has two 12 inch clamps. Here are the dimensions:  (W X D X H): 85.0 X 55.0 X 75.5cms. This will be a guaranteed winner!

It’s super affordable at $74.33! Get it here.

 

 

26. The Godfather on Blu-Ray

 

 

 

Every guy should own this series by Francis Ford Coppola. It doesn’t get much more classic than this!

Give him the chance to watch the rise and fall of the Corleone family. This is packed with amazing actors: Al Pacino, James Caan, Robert Duvall, Marlon Brando. It was also nominated for ten Academy Awards, winning three of them, including the highly coveted Best Picture.

He will cherish this masterpiece forever!

It’s only $29.78 for the whole set on blu-ray! Get it here.

 

 

27. Grilled Cheese Bags

 

 

Sure, this may seem like a simple, cheap, cheesy gift, and that’s because it IS (pun TOTALLY intended).

These bags are awesome! They make a fantastic grilled cheese sandwich, and he doesn’t have to pull out pans, spatulas, wash dishes, and all that jazz. He can easily slip his bread and cheese into the bag and throw it right into the toaster! Best of all, you don’t get stuck with the cleanup.

This is also great for bachelors and college students, or for when you are out of town and your mister has to fend for himself. It’s a set of three, and they are disposable, so he can just toss them when done!

They are only $6.49. Get them here.

 

 

28. Echo Show

 

 

 

A lot of guys have received the Echo or the Echo Dot in the last couple of years. I’m pretty sure Mr. Og considers Alexa his mistress. He loves her.

Now you can impress your guy even MORE with the Echo Show. This has everything you already love about Alexa, but it adds video! You can make calls, connect it to security cameras and baby monitors, watch music videos or cooking tutorials (while cooking), look at photos, and more, all hands free!

It also has Dolby processing, extended bass response, eight microphones, beam-forming technology, and noise cancellation for excellent audio quality and response. The one thing I’ve always thought was missing from Alexa was the visual component, and now it’s here. Believe me, he will love love LOVE this!

It’s decently priced at $229.99. Get it here.

 

 

29. Beard Shaving Bib

 

 

Honestly, this looks like it’s for him, but it’s kind of for YOU.

Mr. Og always leaves hair everywhere when he shaves or trims his hair. Try as he may, there’s always little bits of hair in the sink, in cracks, on the floor. It’s everywhere! Not anymore with this beard shaving bib.

It fits around his neck like the typical aprons you wear to get your hair cut. But the ends suction to the mirror, so it catches all the hair, and makes disposal a cinch!

This comes with a free stainless steel beard shaping tool, a beard catcher mat and a travel bag. No more hair all over the bathroom!

It’s also only $11.98! Find it here.

 

And finally, last but certainly not least……..

 

 

30. Full-Size Kegorator

 

 

Ladies, this is guaranteed to make him a happy man! What guy doesn’t want to be able to drink fresh poured draft beer in the comfort of his own home? What girls doesn’t want that either, for that matter?

This is especially great for fellas that like to home brew. The specs are impressive: It has a 5.1 cubic foot capacity, a double meter regulator, a 2.5 pound CO2 tank, a removable drip tray, an adjustable thermostat, a double tap system and more!

It’s a great gift for enjoying a beer after work, or for hosting a party and serving some home brew to all your friends. They will be impressed, and he will love it, I promise you that!

It’s totally worth the investment at $415.32! Buy it here.

 

So there you have it! Thirty of the best gifts you can get for that manly man in your life. Stay tuned for more gift guides in the coming weeks!

 

Share this list with your friends so they can impress their manly men!

 

Cheers!

 

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I’m the founder of The Bonafide Broad, and a thirty-something broad originally from the Pacific Northwest. I now live in Flagstaff, Arizona, with my guy, Mr. OG. When I’m not busy rescuing kittens from tall trees, carrying babies from burning buildings, and trying to establish world peace, I work for the school district in Flagstaff, and I run this blog.

Six Reasons Why Space in a Relationship is Not Bad, it’s RAD

Six Reasons Why Space in a Relationship is Not Bad, it’s RAD

Ah space in a relationship. It can be such a controversial subject.

I was married exactly one week after I turned 20 years old. Tying the knot felt like such an adult thing to do.

I’m not going to lie, I felt like a badass in my wedding dress. It was a classy, sexy, crisp white, A-line gown my grandmother purchased for $99 online, and it made me look like a woman.



Underneath all the beading and tulle, I was scared shitless. It felt like I was pulling one over on everyone. I was terrified that at any moment everyone would discover that I was a phony who had no idea what the hell I was doing.

I was a little girl trying to pass herself off as a woman.

Both of us were so YOUNG. Husband #1 (his nickname, even though I’ve only been married once) was only two weeks older than me. We weren’t even old enough to legally drink. We were babies.

 

 

Lucky for me,  Husband #1 had been my best friend for years. I leaned heavily on him for support and to help me overcome my inner fears and feelings of inadequacy.

As a result, our relationship became extremely close. We had no space. We knew each other better than we knew ourselves, to the umpteenth degree. In our household, number ones AND number twos were committed with the bathroom door open. There was no such thing as guy’s nights or girl’s nights, only couples’ nights. We were a package deal.

Husband #1 and I didn’t understand the concept of individuality within a relationship. We almost NEVER had space from each other. In fact, we viewed giving each other space as something negative. In our minds, the lack of space in our relationship was definitive proof of our connectedness. I remember pitying couples around us who did give each other room to breathe. I thought, “Those couples just don’t have the same chemistry and deep love for one another that we have.”

Boy, I couldn’t have been more of a dumbass.

 

 

Time is the great instructor, and as it passes it teaches us a whole lot about ourselves. It took me years to learn this, but space can be one of the very best gifts you can give to your partner and yourself.

Take a note from the experts. “In many cases,”  says Steve Ward, CEO of Master Matchmakers, “a little space will give them [your partner] time to refocus and see that it’s up to themselves, not their partners, to create personal satisfaction and happiness.”  Christopher Knippers is the author of Cultivating Confidence.  He mentions, “When two people assume all their needs are going to be fulfilled through each other, the relationship is set up for disappointment, and ultimately failure.”

The success of your relationship is partly dependent on setting and respecting each other’s boundaries. There are a shit ton of advantages you will discover when you learn to start giving your partner space.

These are the six most awesome benefits I have discovered in my own relationship:

 

It Gives You the Chance to Miss Each Other

Remember when we were kids and we would spend a few days over the summer at a friend’s house? By the end of it, I was so effing sick of that friend, I never wanted to see them again. However, after a little time apart, I would forget why I was annoyed in the first place. I missed my friend, and I was ready to dive back in headfirst.

Not much changes as an adult. Especially in relationships, when you get too close, you start to hate each other’s guts. You know those cute little quirks you love about each other? Not so much anymore. You want to take those quirks and shove them up your partner’s patootie!

But what if you give your partner some space? In my experience, when I get some time away from Mr. OG, I miss him like crazy. When I get to be around him after a little space, we have so much to talk about, and we feel content to be near each other, instead of burned out.

 

 

It reminds me of when we were first dating. We could have hours long conversations, wanting to know as much about each other as possible. Nowadays, after getting some time apart, we do the same thing. We have so much more to converse about. Besides, think about it:  Most people in serious relationships live together. Is it really that bad to give each other some space?

 

It Helps Build Trust With Each Other

As I mentioned earlier, many people make the mistake of thinking lack of space is a sign of connectedness. However, I’ve found that when I am REALLY honest with myself, usually this is just a way to disguise real issues in the relationship.

It’s not always true, but extreme closeness between partners can be a sign of insecurity in a relationship. If you can’t allow your guy to go have a beer with his bros without texting 27 times to make sure he isn’t doing anything bad, that says a lot about the level of trust you and your partner have with one another.

Giving space to your partner gives them a chance to show you they are loyal to you. I was so young when I married Husband #1. I didn’t have anything to compare our relationship to, other than my own parents’ marriage, and they were divorced when I was 11. I was winging it.

Let me tell you, I wasn’t doing a very good job. I would go through his phone when he was asleep. I was the chick who called and texted a zillion times when we were apart. I was SO insecure. It did NOTHING to better our relationship, and in fact created a whole lot of unnecessary tension.

 

 

Nowadays, Mr. OG always tells me with a wink, “I already have a crazy woman to deal with. Why would I spend guy time looking for another one?” It’s good for a laugh, but it has some truth to it.

Unless you happen to be going through life with a real asshole, most guys don’t want to spend their “guy time” thinking about another woman. They don’t want to think about you, their sister, their mom, their grandma, or any other woman in the world. Guy time is an opportunity for your man to scratch his balls freely, drink too much beer, grunt, fart, and generally act like a prepubescent teenager.

Giving him that opportunity without a guilt trip attached is assigning honor to your man. You are telling him that you love and trust him, and that you want him to have some fun on HIS terms. This is one of the best ways to make your guy feel respected. It is something he needs to do for you as well. Demand it ladies! If you’re giving this to him, make sure you are getting it back from him, or that’s a case for a huge amount of resentment.

 

It Prevents Unnecessary Fights 

Everybody fights. If a couple doesn’t fight, I’ve always thought, one of them is lying. There is no way you can spend a whole lifetime, or even just a few months with a person and agree on EVERYTHING.

 

 

I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve gotten in an hours-long all out rager with Husband #1 or Mr. OG, and I think, “If I’d just have walked away earlier this damn fight wouldn’t have happened!” There are so many arguments that can be prevented by giving each other a little space to think.

The most unacceptable behaviors that come out during big brawls are simply natural defense mechanisms we create to protect ourselves when we feel cornered. Like an animal, humans tend to lash out at their partners when they feel trapped; it’s the “fight” part of our “fight or flight” instinct.

Giving space when tensions are rising offers both you and your partner the chance to calm down, organize your thoughts, and even put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Oh, and it gives your Mister the time to think of a really good apology, because we are always right ladies, am I right???

 

It Affords You the Opportunity to “Do You”  

Space in your relationship gives you time to pursue individual interests. It is very common for people, especially women, to lose themselves in a relationship. Often a person will set aside their goals, aspirations, dreams, and even hobbies, for the sake of the relationship. We have all done it.  The crazy thing is, most of the time, it ‘s completely unnecessary. In fact, many women take this step without their partner demanding it, or even hinting at it.

Really, the only time it makes sense to give up these interests is if your partner is terminally ill and you are their caregiver 24 hours a day. Even then, you still need personal time.

Ladies, we need to stop putting ourselves on the back burner! We really CAN have our cake and eat it too when it comes to being in a relationship and staying true to ourselves. So take some time to pursue those hobbies you set aside, or to learn new ones.

 

 

Read, paint, knit, get a pedicure, learn a new recipe, take a class. DO YOU. Think about it: if we DO find that our partner is not supportive of us being an individual, is that person someone we really want to build our life and future with? That’s a rhetorical question, but you should definitely answer NO to it!

 

 

Giving your Mister some alone time is guaranteed to make him happy. Mr. OG likes to golf. It’s therapeutic for him. Whether alone or with buddies, something about walking the course with a brewski in his hand can change his whole outlook on most things for the better. I don’t text or call him when he golfs. When he comes home, he is so appreciative, he can’t get enough of me. So worth it ladies!

 

It Helps You Reconnect With Your Friends

Have you noticed when a person gets into a comfortable relationship, their social life tends to goes out the window? We have all been on both ends of this kind of situation; either our friend gets a guy/gal and forgets all about us, or we get a partner and our friends are history. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, it’s just a thing. It happens.

Especially in a new relationship, it’s difficult to not want to be joined at the hip with your new partner. Unfortunately, it’s usually at the expense of everyone else in your life.

However, if you and your partner are practicing giving each other a healthy amount of space, you have a good opportunity to reconnect with your old friends, or to make new ones.

I can’t emphasize enough the value of having close friends of the same sex, ESPECIALLY if you are in a committed relationship. It provides you with people to vent on,  to get advice from, to drink gallons of wine with. What’s bad about that?

 

 

So go do girls night, or guys night. Make some new friends, and remind your old friends why they love you. Showing them a little courtesy and appreciation for sticking around will go a long way.

 

It Makes Sex SO MUCH Better

There are times when sex can become a little dull and routine in long-term relationships. It takes real effort to keep things fresh and exciting.

I’ll admit it, a lot of times I’m just too damn tired to be creative when it comes to sex. There are even times when Mr. OG and I try to get it done during commercial breaks so we don’t miss our shows. What the hell? That’s life.

 

 

However, after we get a little time apart, our sex is much more rewarding. The anticipation itself adds to the excitement and pleasure. We get excited to try new things, we laugh, and we ENJOY ourselves. Instead of sex becoming a burden, it’s more like the icing on our cake of a relationship.

My sex life really changed for the better when I began to apply this principle of giving Mr. OG some extra space. Sex became fun again, and anything BUT routine.

 

The Moral of the Story

Of course, there are times and situations when space can be harmful. If trust has been broken before, it would be prudent to seek guidance from a professional in creating healthy space between you and your partner. This can enable you to respect your partner, but also to protect yourself.

A key point to remember is that it’s all about balance. Sleeping in separate bedrooms at opposite sides of the house may not be the beneficial kind of space your relationship needs. But a regular guys or ladies night, where you don’t text each other for a few hours can be.

I write from my own life experience. While I am no longer married (a story for another time), one thing I can tell you is that when Mr. OG and I make it a priority to create and maintain healthy space between us, it changes our relationship immensely for the better.

Ironically, the less space you give each other, the further apart you grow. If longevity is important to you, and you want to grow old with this person you call a partner, give them a little wiggle room.

Could your relationship benefit from some space? Do an honest self-examination to answer that question. Still not exactly sure? Find out by taking this quick test.

 

 

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Decor For Real: My Uneducated Thoughts

Decor For Real: My Uneducated Thoughts

I am always looking for easy and cheap decor ideas to spruce up my home for each changing season. Here is where I encounter problems. Most of the decorating blogs and websites out there are just not realistic.

Many decorating blogs have an air of pretentiousness to them. I mean, don’t get me wrong, there are some incredibly beautiful ideas on these blogs, which we will call “Those who shall remain unnamed.” It’s not my style to specifically call someone out that I’ve never even met. Besides, these blogs serve a purpose, and there is a reason they are successful. People use them for inspiration.



However, I am real, not fancy, and my house is never going to look like it came straight from the pages of Better Homes and Gardens. It’s just not sustainable for me, nor do I want it to be. I love my gloriously messy and realistic existence.

I recently relocated from Vancouver, Washington to Flagstaff, Arizona. We went from a small two bedroom apartment to a significantly larger three bedroom house. Needless to say, I needed some inspiration. So I spent an afternoon perusing different blogs and studying beautiful pictures, specifically of living rooms, my starting point.

 

 

Photo by Flaunter .com on Unsplash

 

After “Oooing,” and “Aahing,” over the sheer beauty of some of the ideas, I tried to picture if any of these would be realistic for my living situation.

That’s when a few things really began to stand out to me. First, none of the pictures have televisions in them. Most people have a TV set in their living room. My question is, do people with perfect homes just not watch the Tube? Because I have a television in my living room, as well as one in my bedroom. We have another set in my stepson’s bedroom that the kids use to play games on. These televisions get used. A LOT. Why? Because the people in my house LOVE to watch TV.

Check out this chart that shows the number of televisions in the average American home:

 

Source: U.S. Energy Information Administration, Residential Energy Consumption Surveys

 

Come on people! I need décor ideas that include my beloved friend, the television set.

Another thing I noticed is that many of the living rooms I was looking at were filled with white furniture. Really? White? I’m a stepparent with two wonderful stepchildren, a boy of 12 and a girl of 10. They are pretty clean kids, relatively speaking. They are not what worries me. Even if I wasn’t a stepmother, I couldn’t trust myself with white furniture. I don’t wear white. I avoid white like the plague.

 

Photo by Stephen Di Donato on Unsplash

 

No matter what my intentions, if I am near something that is a beautiful stark white, or a creamy ivory, or any other hue, tone, or shade that could be referred to as a variation of white, it will not be white for long. I have impeccable aim when it comes to spilling. My spills almost always land on the lightest color and the most stainable surface. It’s almost a talent, really.

Then there is Mr. OG, whose nickname is “The Spiller.” Need I say more?

Lastly, I couldn’t believe the outrageous amount of money certain pieces cost! I will not pay $600 for a coffee table. It’s just not feasible for my lifestyle.

After coming to these realizations, honestly, I was pissed. “Who lives like this?” I kept wondering. Who would want to? Not me. I’m better than that. I’m above all tha…..

….wait a minute. NOW who is being pretentious?

As I began mulling this over, I started to realize that the nature of finding inspiration for décor is to find something you aspire to, a goal. I’m a firm believer in setting goals that may seem impossibly high. Because with hard work, nothing is impossible.

Perhaps I can’t afford the gorgeous blue desk with anchor knobs. But you know what I can afford? That perfectly sized $30 desk at the thrift store that is made of solid, good quality oak. I can also afford sandpaper, and small can of navy blue paint from Walmart.

When I began looking back through the pictures I was so harshly criticizing, I realized that like everything else in life, a few small tweaks are all I need to customize these décor goals to my life.

For example, I can wall mount my television set in the living room. That way it almost becomes a piece of art in of itself. And I don’t ever HAVE to have white furniture. I can go with whatever color I want. That’s called being an adult.

My home will probably never look as good as those pictures. But you know what is missing from those perfect pictures? The warmth. The laughter. The kids and cats and dogs. The funny movies. The unfolded laundry and unscrubbed dishes. The fights and tears. The hugs and kisses. The LIFE. The life is missing from those perfect shots.

I’ll take real life over a perfect snapshot any day.

 

My actual living room (complete with wall-mounted TV!).

 

Have a great day Broads!

 

 

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I’m the founder of The Bonafide Broad, and a thirty-something broad originally from the Pacific Northwest. I now live in Flagstaff, Arizona, with my guy, Mr. OG. When I’m not busy rescuing kittens from tall trees, carrying babies from burning buildings, and trying to establish world peace, I work for the school district in Flagstaff, and I run this blog.